Some divorce advice that will help you start to heal your broken heart:
- Take time to take things in. Do not pressure yourself to move on or to be okay. Cry. Mourn. Scream. Stare into nothingness. Breathe. The pangs of divorce are hardest when it’s still so fresh that is why at the time frame of perhaps Day 1 til a month, perhaps, you have the permission to give yourself some time to take things in. It’s perfectly alright. Remind yourself that you’re only human. You have the right to be hurt and to show the people so. The best thing you can do the when the post-divorce common sense arrives is to have a “move forward” mantra to help you recover. A simple “everything falls into their right places” or “this too, shall pass” can help a lot to heal a broken heart.
- Reach out. Don’t close yourself to the rest of the world. Sure you may be strong but even Superman needs help sometimes. Don’t close out on some very helpful divorce advice. You won’t know when you’re going to get them or from whom! Share your thoughts and your feelings with people who are willing to listen. And go out of your room once in a while. Don’t be stuck in the black hole of sorrow. Be gentle on yourself.
- Learn from it. After everything that you’ve been through, will you just sit and feel like a loser and mourn? Of course not. Take some healthy me-time to assess things and think it through. What are the things in your marriage which were wrong from the start? What are the things that you always thought to be unchangeable and wrong with your (ex) partner? What were the wonderful things that you missed out on when you were married? Thinking about these things helps you get over faster.
- Socialize. More than reaching out, actually socialize and stop being uptight. People may give you unsolicited divorce advice or may want to talk about it when you least want to (annoying isn’t it?) but strategize a great way to get over the conversation and switch it into something which is more worthy of your time. Consider trying out new things, going to new places and meeting new people. Actually open up for a fresh start.
- Be honest with yourself. There may be times when you want to talk to your ex again or you’d want to badmouth him/ her to other people just to get sympathy. But really, this is not the way to go. At the end of the day, when it’s just you and the truth, you’ll be back to feeling rotten.
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